I covered her vaginal anatomy in-depth in the Pussy Eating

Learn How to Squirt: A Step-by-Step Guide by Our Sex Experts

Squirting isn’t the measure of success—pleasure, connection, and how she feels are what truly matter. The same components that create great squirting potential—trust, arousal, pressure on the front wall of the vagina—also lead to deeply satisfying orgasms even if no fluid is released. Look, technique is important, but it’s the vibe—the atmosphere, aftercare, and those little surprise touches—that really make her let go. This isn’t just about getting her to squirt; it’s about making her feel safe, desired, and completely in the moment. The higher volume, shoot-the-wall squirting sometimes seen in explicit content is often actually forced urine, as the actors need to produce the effect in dramatic quantities, and on command.

Instead of the orgasm taking over your entire body, running up your spine, making your whole body shake and wriggle with pleasure – your orgasm will be localized to just the vaginal area. During an orgasm, hormones are released that reduce stress and increase dopamine sensitivity meaning life will seem just that little bit brighter after a squirtinf orgasm. The orgasmic massage is one of my favorite ‘techniques’ of all time. And I’m sure you’ll agree that feeling confident is an important part of enjoying sex. Contrary to what a lot of people think, squirting is not peeing. This would not be vaginal sex but rather oral sex with vibrator penetration.

Squirting, also known as ‘female ejaculation,’ isn’t necessarily what you see in porn. Female ejaculate is when the urethral sponge (G-spot or Skene’s gland) becomes highly aroused and fills up with fluid. The fluid inside the urethral sponge that leaves the body is what’s called squirting.

A few seconds more, and she’ll have her squirting orgasm. This way she’ll be much more relaxed, and she’ll have a harder squirting orgasm. This is important, because she’ll be able to put her trust in you while she has a squirting orgasm. If she’s about to squirt for the first time, it’s essential to try and control her thought (bear with me on this one).

It might sound cliché, but if we become too goal-oriented in our sex and play, we miss a lot of beautiful things along the way. Going for G-spot stimulation from anal sex isn’t necessarily for anal beginners. Like all anal play, lube is essential, especially if you’re aiming for vigorous stimulation. When it comes to achieving female ejaculation through penetrative sex, there’s one important thing to keep in mind. If she squirts while you’re inside her, you won’t see her spray like you would see in a porno. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s completely fine to take a break.

What’s become clear through research is that experiencing squirting and/or female ejaculation is normal. A lack of squirting or ejaculation doesn’t mean sex is unsatisfactory. Part of the problem is that the distinction between squirting and female ejaculation is new, and most older research treats them as the same thing. If you can successfully make a woman squirt, your chances of retaining her will go way up. This is because the vast majority of guys can’t even make her cum, let alone squirt.

Starting off with your fingers is a good way to explore all your nooks and crannies in a way that is gentle and comfortable. Anyone wanting to try their hand at becoming a human squirt gun will find that the key to learning the ropes is through masturbation. So if you’ve dribbled or gushed — or experienced something anywhere in between — you’ve probably squirted. Particularly if you help one another to clean up after sex. Of course, if you’ve squirted any significant amount, it’s likely that you did notice.

As she gets aroused and horny her Skene’s gland will start to swell and fill up with fluid (this is fluid that she ejaculates when she squirts). I covered her vaginal anatomy in-depth in the Pussy Eating Guide, check it out now if there are any parts of her body you’re unsure about. Here are a few of those most frequently asked questions about squirting during sex. Women squirt when they are in the right state of mind. Regardless of your Superman techniques, if you do not address emotional blockages, she will not squirt. To reach her G-spot, form the Spiderman grip (as if Spiderman is shooting his webs) curve your fingers upward inside her, and put pressure on her G-Spot.

Axel introduces everyone on the set and it breaks down into a full on orgy of oral sex and fingerbanging. I don’t normally like orgy scenes, but these just seemed right to me and was pretty hot. As a sex and relationship coach, I talk to men every day who feel immense pressure to get it right in bed. They’re trying to say the perfect thing, plan the perfect date, and most of all—be the perfect lover.

For one, you’re not uncomfortable how do you squirt, and two, you don’t have to worry about risking an injury. So this becomes far more relaxing, enjoyable, and capable of hitting the g-spot. If you are comfortable with it, you may also consider moving to the bathtub or somewhere similar for the first few orgasms. That allows you to get comfortable with your squirting orgasms without having to worry about soiling the bed.